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Enjoy Your Life: Change Your Point of
"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and
one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet
If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump
for joy and push for better results the next time or will you
be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?
In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to
have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you
may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging
and fulfilling life.
So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?
Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good
morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and
political success; to popularity; to good health and even to
long life and freedom from trauma.
On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism
have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same
way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from
30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder
but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.
Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back
up why it really pays to be an optimist:
Optimists expect the best
The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend
to believe bad events, which will last a long time and
undermine everything they do, are their own fault.
The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard
knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain
their misfortune---it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe
defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are
confined to this one case.
Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at
hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words,
they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way
that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad
situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.
They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed
once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in
one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”
Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better
reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden
tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will
stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.
People respond positively to optimists
Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for
their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate
people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic
view of the world can be contagious and influence those they
Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all
communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted
while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated
In life, these people often win elections; get voted most
congenial and sought for advice.
When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher
Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective
well-being during times of stress than do people who are less
optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to
stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding
dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit
trying when difficulties arise.
They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are
also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer
to that goal or elusive dream.
Optimists are healthier and live longer
Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a
positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's
ability to fight disease.
Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much
freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle
age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative
So why not be an optimist today? And think positively
towards a more fulfilled life.
Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why
not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows
sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the
mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right
track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored
glasses and see life in the bright side?