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BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM, A STARTER GUIDE TO SELF
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem
in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider
as a starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone
else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another.
These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down
in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or
get the best of you. So which dart pins should you
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting
just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people
usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even
if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the
time you get to work too much without getting help from people
concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self
esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to
compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers,
snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers,
complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds
of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as
to your self improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge
our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and
alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for
awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to
improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be
susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But
don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by
the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake
as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all
the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must
learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a
mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your
upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such
as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of
friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a
failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn
from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to
encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born
leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying
positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines
for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God
wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may
now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and
people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the
battle field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and
armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s
options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we
will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor
ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes
from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3
things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self
improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are,
what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should
gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we
develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and
discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement,
true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting
up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be
contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity
to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build
self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.